…and then something unexpected happened. — This week, I accidentally sent a sexually explicit text to my employer. She is one of my tutoring clients, the mother of one of my students. I have my own business as a tutor for elementary-age children. …

Did we speak too soon? — Last week I wrote an article on the new curation model for Medium. I’ve noticed that my articles have been taking longer to get distributed now — if they ever do. And originally, I expressed excitement over this. That maybe the algorithm would finally lean in our favor again. The…

I was so appalled, I didn’t even know how to react — This week, I witnessed perhaps one of the worst examples of white privilege I’ve ever seen. I want to start this article by acknowledging that I am a white person, and so my characterization of this experience as one of the “worst” examples of white privilege I’ve ever seen could…

It could be doing more harm than good — My preferred pronouns are she/her/hers. What are your preferred pronouns? Let’s all go around and share our preferred pronouns! These words are often uttered by well-intentioned people, but there’s still something off about it. Why? You guessed it: the term “preferred pronouns.” This term has bothered me for a while…

And we won’t forget it — About a year ago, I had the worst menstrual period I’ve ever had in my life. I could barely get out of bed. My cramps were so debilitating that I was hardly able to do any activities; even sitting in bed watching TV felt painful. …

Just hear me out — This morning over lunch, I was scrolling Facebook and came across a post by Planned Parenthood. The post was a collection of 17 stories (shared via Tweets) of women who have had abortions and how their access to abortion changed their lives. Of course, all of them felt positively about…

Has anyone else noticed a difference? — Lately, I’ve noticed a huge difference in curation rates. This is surprising, because for a long time on Medium (most likely from around the time when the monthly bonuses began, all the way until recently) the curation game was easy. Those of us who have been on Medium for a…

Is it bad that I’m not surprised? — I knew it was only a matter of time before I wrote this. There was a shooting at a school in my hometown. (Well, I grew up in Minneapolis, and the shooting happened in a suburb, but it was a first-ring and only five minutes from where I grew up.) …

My journey through debilitating anxiety — It happened on the day I moved into my first apartment. The chaos of moving had made the whole “saying goodbye” part feel secondary. …