This one’s for you, anti-vaxxers

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I’ll be honest for a minute: I don’t want to get the coronavirus vaccine.

I am not an anti-vaxxer of any sort. I’ve never been one to believe that vaccines cause adverse side effects (especially not things like autism) or that they are damaging to health and society. No. I am up to date on every single one of my vaccines, and happily so, because I take pride in doing my civil duty and protecting my communities.

This vaccine, though, makes me a little more apprehensive. The coronavirus just surfaced about a year ago, which means this vaccine hasn’t been a long time in the making — it’s only been multiple months. I’d be lying to you if I said that didn’t make me a little nervous, or that it didn’t make me think twice. Because it has. I’ve never in my lifetime seen a vaccine be developed this fast. …


It’s irrelevant. And it’s not okay anymore.

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“Soooo… who wears the pants in your relationship?”

Whenever I hear this question, I just want to blurt out, Excuse me?! but often, it’s not my place (since I’m single and not the one being asked about said relationship). So, instead, I bite my tongue and try to refrain from lashing out at people who continue to use this phrase, even after the social revolution that we are experiencing as a society.

I suppose at one point in time, no one batted an eye when someone asked a question like “Who wears the pants” because back then, it was the norm. Back then, gender roles were far more traditional and it was definitely still common for women to stay at home with the kids while men went out and worked. It was common for women to wear, literally, skirts and dresses while men put on slacks or jeans and tackled their careers. Back then, maybe even the Duggars, who don’t allow the girls and women in their families to even wear pants, wouldn’t have seemed so over-the-top with their painstakingly conservative and “traditional” lifestyle. But here we are. It’s 2020. Hell, even in the 1990s we had moved past that phase. Society had shifted. More women were working outside the home. Pretty much everyone wore jeans or pants or suits, not just the cisgender men. The LGBTQ+ rights movement had begun and was going strong. And now it’s 2020. It seems we’ve made so much progress, and yet here we are, stuck in the rhetoric of questions like “Who wears the pants in your relationship?” …


The truth behind the myth

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All over social media, there is transphobia.

Most times this transphobia comes in the form of religious defense. People object to transgender people (and LGBTQ+ people in general) because they claim their religion prohibits it. I support you, just not your lifestyle is the trademark phrase. You might recognize it.

But then there’s the people who claim that being transgender is a mental illness. These are the same people who replace “transgender” with “transgendered.” (Ugh.) The same people who take major offense when someone else defends LGBTQ+ culture and calls them out on their violation of separation of church and state. …


It’s how we got ourselves into this mess — and it’s the only way out.

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The United States needs to eliminate the two-party system.

In fact, that seems to be one of the only things that the two parties can sometimes agree on — that the parties don’t represent us as people.

Some may disagree. But let me lead you into the tangled web that we call the two-party system — the fractured reality that has pulled us into the mess of 2020. By this point, if we had just realized our mistakes and been able to rectify them earlier, we could have saved thousands of lives, millions of jobs, mountains of money and debt, and a lot of people’s mental health. …


What it’s like to process an event that you couldn’t comprehend at the time

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When I tell people I’m a survivor, they sometimes want to know more.

Their first response is usually, “What happened? You can trust me, I promise.”

Well, first there’s that whole deal of me not wanting to share my trauma with everyone — when I tell someone I’ve been through a traumatic experience, they shouldn’t expect me to share the full story with them. But even if I wanted to share the full story with everyone I met, I simply couldn’t. And here’s why.

I don’t remember my trauma.

I know a few key things about it, like the fact that it was sexual trauma. I know that it happened to me at a very young age. But aside of the very bare facts, I have very minimal knowledge of what actually went down. I don’t like to think too hard about it, because, obviously, it’s emotionally difficult and triggering. But sometimes it’s bothersome how little I actually understand about it. Sometimes I wish I had more information so that I knew how to help myself heal better. …


… and it’s not what you’d expect.

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I broke up with my last significant other four years ago.

Yes, four years. I haven’t been in a relationship in four years.

I wish I could say I dated around a little, but I really didn’t. After we broke up I was pretty devastated. I spent most of my time journaling, hanging out with my friends, and finding comfort in books and music. Dating again was the last thing I was concerned about. I just wasn’t ready. I had little crushes, people I’d see and be attracted to, or people I’d consider dating just because I liked the idea of us together. But nothing stuck. In the end, I just wasn’t over my ex, and I wasn’t ready to get back out there yet. …


How heterosexual people are diminishing the meaning of LGBTQ

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A couple of days ago, I was having a conversation with one of the women I live with.

We were talking about LGBTQ culture. I haven’t lived with her long; in fact, she just moved in about a month ago, so we haven’t had much of a chance to get to know each other too deeply. And actually, that’s how the conversation came about — because as we were laughing and joking about our past relationships, it occurred to me suddenly that she had no idea I was bisexual. The whole time she had been telling me horror stories of old boyfriends and crushes and asking me if I had stories about my weird ex-boyfriends. Suddenly, the heteronormativity of her questions became clear. Ex-boyfriends? …


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There’s a new app, first popularized in 2019, that’s become all the rage in 2020 — and that’s Tiktok.

It’s actually a really cool social media platform, with lots of confidence-boosting trends, creative videos, and inspiring accounts that push for social change. And anyone that has Tiktok knows: it goes through “trends,” or phases of time where specific songs, sounds, dances, pranks, etc. are very popular. I’m here to talk about one today:

The “my parents react to WAP” trend.

Megan Thee Stallion and Cardi B came out with WAP on August 7, 2020, and since then it’s been flying across the Internet and receiving an unprecedented amount of listens. Of course, this wonderful support for the song also comes with much criticism, such as from people like Ben Shapiro who urge the two female rappers to “see a doctor” since the arousal that they describe in the song is abnormal (umm, what?!). There’s clearly a double standard in the music industry that’s reflected here: when men write, even in graphic detail, about sex, they are praised or they’re told their music is “catchy” and they are hardly ever accused of being disgusting or atypical. Women, however, are faced with immeasurable backlash and downright disrespect when they do the same. …


It’s deeper than just Trump

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The 2020 election is sure to be one of the closest and most critical elections in history.

For one, our country is more divided than ever before. The two-party system has brought us more unrest than we ever could have anticipated.

We’re struggling with checks and balances. Even though he ran as a Republican, our President doesn’t even have a majority of the party’s support, and his conservatism borders past any two-party lines. On the other hand, our legislative branch is also split into two — the House of Representatives is majority Democrat, while the Senate swings problematically Republican.

But here’s the one we don’t think about: the Supreme Court. …


She had a lot to say. But no one listened.

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Marilyn Monroe, 36-year-old Hollywood sex symbol, was found dead in her bed behind locked doors…

That’s the beginning of a daily newspaper article about Marilyn Monroe’s death, the morning after it happened.

Now you might be reading that first sentence and thinking, Hey, what’s wrong with it? Initially, maybe nothing appears wrong to you.

And I agree. Because nothing appeared wrong to me, either.

Except when I began leafing through more articles. I cruised the internet, trying to find all the headlines.

Marilyn Monroe, Hollywood sex symbol, found dead…

Sex symbol commits suicide in her bungalow…

American sex symbol dies after drug…

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Brooklyn Reece

Writer. Creator. Teacher. Feminist. Just trying to spread love, talk about equity, and be a good human. She/her. Follow me on Instagram @brooklynxreece!

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