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Do LGBTQ People Really Need to Come Out?
I’m a member of the LGBTQ community, but I never came out.
And it’s not because I’m ashamed, or because I don’t know how to do it, or because I’m trying to gather the courage.
It’s because I don’t want to. I’m never going to come out to anyone.
I don’t believe that coming out is an essential to being part of the LGBTQ community. And as weird as it sounds, I have my reasons for feeling this way.
For a long time, when I was growing up, I thought I was bi-curious. Over time, as my narrative began to change and I welcomed my feelings for what they were, I found a label that I felt fit me best: bisexual. (You can read a previous article about my journey to identifying my bisexuality below.)
It wasn’t initially easy to accept my bisexuality, though. I was much more sexually attracted to women than romantically attracted to them, whereas with guys, I was highly sexually attracted to them and highly romantically attracted to them. My attraction to men did not parallel my attraction to women and vice versa. And although…
