This is why I suggest it’s not a one-size-fits-all and shouldn’t be gendered! I think it’s perfectly fine to want to wait for someone to be enthusiastic and assertive about being with you—I just don’t think we should generalize to everyone. Thank you for understanding my message and yet still respectfully sharing your perspective.

I have to confess too that I think I’m in the same place you are right now. I’m waiting for some enthusiasm from someone else because I don’t want to communicate for the both of us!