Why Do So Many Straight Women Watch Lesbian Porn?

The answer might surprise you

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Women want to see their pleasure prioritized.

When people watch porn, it’s usually for their own personal enjoyment, so they’re going to search for content that makes them feel good and fits their fancy. That means there’s definitely a reason why so many straight women are watching lesbian porn — and it’s most likely because lesbian porn tends to prioritize women’s pleasure much more than any other genre. Usually in a sexual experience, it’s expected that one (or both!) of the partners will experience a climax, and that both will experience a satisfactory level of pleasure. So obviously, with two women participants, you’re going to witness a woman being pleasured by her partner. Of course, this is possible to witness in straight porn as well, but it’s often more focused on the man’s pleasure and can often see women as the afterthought. That isn’t always an enjoyable experience for a woman who is viewing it, however.

Porn is so focused on the male gaze.

Most porn videos are focused on the male gaze. Producers assume that men are frequent porn-viewers and they seek to satisfy their audience — which is why they tend to focus on the men in the equation. Have you ever noticed in straight porn how there is so little foreplay? How things are often harsh, intense, and rough? How the woman isn’t always visibly enjoying herself? She might make loud noises and seductive facial expressions, but they’re not usually very genuine. It’s likely something that she was told to do by the producer to — yet again — please the male viewers. The camera often focuses on the woman’s face or body, but yet the man is usually hardly touching her or trying to prioritize her pleasure at all. And straight porn is so often filled with thrusting and grunting and groping. But only about 25% of women actually orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. So it’s understandable why most women wouldn’t feel inherently turned on from watching porn of that persuasion. I mean, I’ll just say it: most women require at least some amount of clitoral stimulation to reach climax. And porn (with the exception of lesbian porn) seems to conveniently ignore the existence of the clitoris. What’s up with that?

It’s also about ethics.

We have a huge problem with sex trafficking, exploitation, and sexual assault — not just in the United States, but all across the world. And the porn industry isn’t immune to that. In fact, the porn industry is an instrumental part in upholding those sickening issues that plague girls and women so disproportionately. Many straight porn videos have headlines that promote underage sex, assault, exploitation, incest, etc. Some people see these things as “fetishes,” but to many women, it’s such a persistent source of fear and trauma in our lives and it’s unethical and downright wrong to see it be advertised in the media; it’s certainly not something we’d search for or enjoy. There can also be a power complex between male and female porn actors — depending on the source, it can be questionable whether the female is a willing, enthusiastic participant, especially when she appears to be treated so roughly or to be dominated by her male partner. As women, that’s not what we want to see. We want to know that the porn we are consuming is ethical, consensual, and legal. And I’m not saying lesbian porn is always every one of those things, but it’s usually more visibly enjoyable and consensual for the people participating, or located on feminist porn sites that only produce/post ethical, consensual, legal videos.

In conclusion:

Since straight porn is so focused on the male gaze, it’s never really the woman’s time to shine — or enjoy herself. So it’s no surprise that lesbian porn is an opportunity for women of all sexualities to see their own pleasure being sought, and it’s much more enjoyable to watch that and to visualize a sensual, climactic scene rather than the sometimes unrealistic and animalistic situations depicted in straight porn.

Writer. Creator. Teacher. Feminist. Just trying to spread love, talk about equity, and be a good human. She/her. Follow me on Instagram @brooklynxreece!

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